Ilana Grines, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Certified Sex Therapist
ABOUT ILANA
I help people talk about the things they were taught to avoid.
I’m Ilana Grines, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist. My work sits at the intersection of relationships, sexuality, identity, shame, anxiety, and the need to feel known.
I believe therapy should feel human. You should not have to perform, impress, or arrive with the perfect explanation. You should be able to bring the complicated version.
Schedule a free consultation →“The goal is not to become less emotional, less relational, or less complicated. The goal is to understand yourself well enough to make choices that actually fit your life.”
WHY THIS WORK
Relationships and sexuality are where so many people learn to hide.
People are often taught to be agreeable instead of honest, desirable instead of embodied, independent instead of connected, or sexually available instead of sexually known.
That is why I was drawn to couples and sex therapy. These conversations are rarely only about sex or only about conflict. They are often about worth, safety, power, attachment, culture, identity, grief, and the fear of disappointing someone we love.
My role is not to hand you a universal script. It is to help you understand what is happening beneath the surface and build something more honest, sustainable, and aligned with who you are.
WHAT I BELIEVE
The work is personal. The values behind it are clear.
Shame does not create healthy sexuality.
Conflict is often a protest for connection.
Insight matters most when it changes how you live.
There is no single correct way to build a meaningful relationship.
You deserve care that is affirming without becoming vague or passive.
IN THE THERAPY ROOM
You will know I am in the room with you.
I am warm, engaged, conversational, and direct. I will listen closely, ask questions, reflect patterns, and help you slow down what happens so quickly in real life.
I will not treat you like a diagnosis or reduce your relationship to a communication worksheet. We will pay attention to the emotional logic underneath what you do, not just whether the behavior looks reasonable from the outside.
PROFESSIONAL BACKGROUND
Clinical training with a deeply human approach.
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist providing in-person therapy in Los Angeles and virtual therapy throughout California.
BEYOND THE THERAPY ROOM
I also bring this work into media, education, and public conversation.
A PLACE TO BEGIN
You do not need to know exactly what to say before reaching out.
Schedule a complimentary 15 to 30-minute consultation to briefly discuss what is bringing you in and whether working together feels like a good fit.
Schedule a Free Consultation